1. They tell you that you need to toughen up. Your negative friend can't take it when someone gives them some constructive criticism; yet, they have no problem criticizing you. When you tell them that they've hurt you with something they've said, they accuse you of having thin skin.

1. 他們對你說，你需要變得強壯。當某人給你情緒消極的朋友提出建設性的批評時，他們無法接受；但他們卻會不留情面的批評你。當你告訴他們，他們說的話傷了你時，他們卻抱怨你臉皮薄。

2. They constantly judge you. A good friend is someone who accepts you unconditionally and doesn't give you unsolicited advice. If your friend is hypercritical and always pointing out your flaws, you need to fire them as soon as possible. They aren't good for you mentally or emotionally.

2. 他們總是對你說三道四。好朋友是無條件接受你的人，而且不會主動給你建議。如果你的朋友吹毛求疵，總是指出你的缺點，那么你需要盡快離開這樣的朋友。他們不利于你的身心發展。

3. They put a lot of pressure on you. An overly negative friend will keep at you to succeed as if you're their stand-in for life. The overly negative are often insecure about their own abilities and find it easier to latch on to someone else. Life is stressful enough without someone continually pushing and prodding you.

3. 他們給你施加了很多壓力。一個過度消極的朋友會一直督促你成功，就好像你是他們一生的替代品一樣。過度消極的朋友通常對自己的能力不自信，覺得將希望寄托在他人身上往往更加簡單。生活本來就已經壓力重重了，更何況某人還會不斷的推動你、激勵你。

4. They put a negative spin on everything. Your overly negative friend has an amazing gift for turning your wins into failures.

4. 他們對一切事物都持消極態度。你過度消極的朋友有著驚人天賦：能把好事變成壞事。

5. They want you to share everything. A true friend gives as much as they take. An overly negative friend wants you to share all your secrets (ammunition to be used against you later) but won't tell you any of theirs.

5. 他們希望你分享一切。真正的朋友會拿、也會給予。過度消極的朋友希望你分享所有的秘密（將來可以用作對付你的炸藥），但他們卻不會告訴你他們的秘密。

6. They're extremely controlling. Your bad friend has no problem shaming you for any misstep you make, and will say things like, "You're not going to eat that, are you?"

6. 他們的控制欲極強。你的壞朋友會因為你犯的錯誤而毫不保留的羞辱你，會說一些這樣的話，"你是不會吃的，是不是？"

7. They give back-handed compliments. It's kind of artistic how they can say something hurtful or insulting in such a way that it takes you a minute to realize the negative intent behind it. "Look at you wearing that dress. I would never be that brave. Go you."

7. 他們會轉彎抹角式的恭維你。這是一門藝術，他們怎么能以這樣一種方式說出令人寒心、侮辱人的話語呢？你需要一分鐘的時間才能體會到這句話背后的負面含義。"看看你穿的這條裙子，我可沒你這么勇敢，你真行！"

8. They talk sh*t about you behind your back. Your overly negative friend isn't just gossiping about you; they take badmouthing to the next level and are reveling in your mistakes.

8. 他們會私底下說你壞話。你過度消極的朋友不僅會八卦你，而且還會揭你的短，談論你犯下的錯。

9. They thrive in drama. Those with negative attitudes can never just chill. They have to create drama.

9. 他們十分戲劇化。那些有著負面態度的人不會甘于平靜。他們必須要搞點事情。

1. They tell you that you need to toughen up. Your negative friend can't take it when someone gives them some constructive criticism; yet, they have no problem criticizing you. When you tell them that they've hurt you with something they've said, they accuse you of having thin skin.

1. 他們對你說，你需要變得強壯。當某人給你情緒消極的朋友提出建設性的批評時，他們無法接受；但他們卻會不留情面的批評你。當你告訴他們，他們說的話傷了你時，他們卻抱怨你臉皮薄。

2. They constantly judge you. A good friend is someone who accepts you unconditionally and doesn't give you unsolicited advice. If your friend is hypercritical and always pointing out your flaws, you need to fire them as soon as possible. They aren't good for you mentally or emotionally.

2. 他們總是對你說三道四。好朋友是無條件接受你的人，而且不會主動給你建議。如果你的朋友吹毛求疵，總是指出你的缺點，那么你需要盡快離開這樣的朋友。他們不利于你的身心發展。

3. They put a lot of pressure on you. An overly negative friend will keep at you to succeed as if you're their stand-in for life. The overly negative are often insecure about their own abilities and find it easier to latch on to someone else. Life is stressful enough without someone continually pushing and prodding you.

3. 他們給你施加了很多壓力。一個過度消極的朋友會一直督促你成功，就好像你是他們一生的替代品一樣。過度消極的朋友通常對自己的能力不自信，覺得將希望寄托在他人身上往往更加簡單。生活本來就已經壓力重重了，更何況某人還會不斷的推動你、激勵你。

4. They put a negative spin on everything. Your overly negative friend has an amazing gift for turning your wins into failures.

4. 他們對一切事物都持消極態度。你過度消極的朋友有著驚人天賦：能把好事變成壞事。

5. They want you to share everything. A true friend gives as much as they take. An overly negative friend wants you to share all your secrets (ammunition to be used against you later) but won't tell you any of theirs.

5. 他們希望你分享一切。真正的朋友會拿、也會給予。過度消極的朋友希望你分享所有的秘密（將來可以用作對付你的炸藥），但他們卻不會告訴你他們的秘密。

6. They're extremely controlling. Your bad friend has no problem shaming you for any misstep you make, and will say things like, "You're not going to eat that, are you?"

6. 他們的控制欲極強。你的壞朋友會因為你犯的錯誤而毫不保留的羞辱你，會說一些這樣的話，"你是不會吃的，是不是？"

7. They give back-handed compliments. It's kind of artistic how they can say something hurtful or insulting in such a way that it takes you a minute to realize the negative intent behind it. "Look at you wearing that dress. I would never be that brave. Go you."

7. 他們會轉彎抹角式的恭維你。這是一門藝術，他們怎么能以這樣一種方式說出令人寒心、侮辱人的話語呢？你需要一分鐘的時間才能體會到這句話背后的負面含義。"看看你穿的這條裙子，我可沒你這么勇敢，你真行！"

8. They talk sh*t about you behind your back. Your overly negative friend isn't just gossiping about you; they take badmouthing to the next level and are reveling in your mistakes.

8. 他們會私底下說你壞話。你過度消極的朋友不僅會八卦你，而且還會揭你的短，談論你犯下的錯。

9. They thrive in drama. Those with negative attitudes can never just chill. They have to create drama.

9. 他們十分戲劇化。那些有著負面態度的人不會甘于平靜。他們必須要搞點事情。